The best way to build a healthy personality involves
understanding yourself and your feelings.
Self-Disclosure:
This is achieved through the simple exercise of self-disclosure.
For you to truly understand yourself, or to stop being troubled by things that
may have happened in your past, you must be able to disclose yourself to at
least one person. You have to be able to get those things off your chest. You
must rid yourself of those thoughts and feelings by revealing them to someone
who won't make you feel guilty or ashamed for what has happened.
Self-Awareness:
The
second part of personality development follows
from self-disclosure, and its called self-awareness. Only when you can disclose
what you're truly thinking and feeling to someone else can you become aware of
those thoughts and emotions If the other person simply listens to you without
commenting or criticizing, you have the opportunity to become more aware of the
person you are and why you do the things you do. You begin to develop
perspective, or what the Buddhists call "detachment."
Self-Acceptance:
Now
we come to the good part. After you've gone through self-disclosure to
self-awareness, you arrive at self-acceptance. You accept yourself for the
person you are, with good points and bad points, with strengths and weaknesses,
and with the normal frailties of a human being. When you develop the ability to
stand back and look at yourself honestly, and to candidly admit to others that
you may not be perfect but you're all you've got, you start to enjoy a
heightened sense of self-acceptance.
Do An Inventory of
Your Accomplishments:
A
valuable exercise for developing higher levels of self-acceptance involves
doing an inventory of yourself. In doing this inventory, your job is to
accentuate the positive and minimize the negative.
Think of your unique talents and abilities. Think of your core skills, the
things that you do exceptionally well that account for your success in your
profession and in your personal life right now.
Think About Your
Future:
Think
about your future possibilities and the fact that your potential is virtually
unlimited. You can do what you want to do and go where you want to go. You can
be the person you want to be. You can set large and small goals and make plans
and move step-by-step, progressively toward their realization. There are no
obstacles to what you can accomplish except the obstacles that you create in
your mind.
Take Action:
Here
are three steps you can take immediately to put these ideas into action:
First, sit down with your spouse, or a good friend, and tell him or her about
something that is troubling you and is still causing you unhappiness.
Second, develop perspective on your problem by standing back from it and
imagining that it was happening to someone else. What advice would you give to
that person?
Third, think continually about the good experiences and accomplishments you
have enjoyed in the past. Remind yourself regularly that you are a pretty good
person and you've done a lot of good things in your life.
Courtesy: Brian Tracy
Yours Sincerely,
The Friendly Team
The Training Place of Excellence Limited
